To think it is one thing (god Joni is being such a cow) but to say it out loud to another human being (here, isn’t Joni such a cow?) makes it feel that bit more real and also someone is now there to bear witness to your thoughts.
Furthermore if that witness replies in kind (oh my god yes! Joni is such a cow!) now you’ve established a topic for rapport.
Now you have identified a shared view that together you can come back to again and again.
Now you’re going to hear more evidence that Joni is a cow and your opinion is going to solidify and harden.
An opinion that will not pay attention to any of the good Joni does.
It’s very hard to give a second chance to someone you’ve dismissed and categorised as one of them and not one of us.
It’s much easier to be fair when you nip the bud at the thought.
Ah maybe she’s just having a bad day today.
Thomas Duggan 