Turtling

When the turtle feels unsafe he retreats into his shell.

I can relate!

Whenever I feel insulted or criticised I find myself withdrawing mentally from the conversation.

I believe it’s a protection mechanism.

But after reading ‘Nasty People‘ I have seen the light!

Jay Carter talks about how the introversion reaction is not the most beneficial behaviour.

It can actually lead to spiralling and to prevent that catastrophic thinking is to do the unintuitive and force yourself to be extraverted.

Stay in the conversation.

Push wallowing in self pity in your mental cave to later!

Stay connected to the here and now.

How would you participate in this conversation if you weren’t feeling insulted?

Do that.

Now don’t let my butchered attempt at regurgitating one of the insights put you off the book.

It’s full of other helpful tips, so much so, that I would highly recommend reading it.