Internal inadequacies

‘I don’t like hanging out with them, they make me feel inadequate’

I think once you start to feel inadequate in someone else’s company you might be tempted to do either of the following:

A) Bring em down a peg or two to make yourself feel better.

Or

B) Internally find a plain in which you fare better and focus on that.

Now I think both strategies have their flaws.

A) is just plain mean. This person is living their best life and you want to ruin their day just to make you feel a little better about your life. That’s harsh.

B) can become more and more infuriating as you struggle to find a comparison on which you do better. Also digging for inadequacies on their part can make for a weird conversation.

Now I don’t want to be preaching here but if you’re interested in a third, healthier, option I came across one recently, that so far, has put me in good stead and might work well for you.

If you’d rather not here’s a link to a video of a kid falling over to provide you with a swift exit:

So, anywho, I was reading a book about the Dalai Lama and his preachings and one cure he has for the above ailment is gratitude.

If you’re sitting across the table from someone who has achieved amazing things you can be grateful to hear that 1) this achievement is possible and 2) that the person is in front of you and can provide all the tips for creating the same achievement in your life.

Now I should say it is based on the belief that all humans have the capacity for developing and you don’t subscribe to the fixed mindset approach (that your skill levels and strengths cannot be changed – you will always be bad at math no matter how much effort you put in).

So you see the human across from you, recognize that you are also a human and say to yourself if that human can do it then I can do it too. This is great news!!

Hope that helps!