Absence of character

I think when an adult shows a lack of character the best route is disappointment followed by the lowering of expectations.

To paraphrase Buddha (I think) getting angry is like drinking poison and hoping your enemy will die.

So we don’t want to sit there seething, hoping they will get the message via telepathy.

Instead I think adjusting expectations could be the answer.

You see expectations are great because no one gets surprised when Voldemort is evil because that’s what we expect him to be.

It would be surprising if he showed compassion.

Therefore if you expect a spineless worm to be a spineless worm then you’ll be fine when they prove that theory and pleasantly surprised when they show some backbone.