Everyone has their baggage and in one way or another it’s gonna come out.
It’s impossible to keep it locked up forever.
Life is too long, you have to relax at some time and even by being locked up and not spontaneous you reveal your baggage by default.
I think the best way to deal with it is on a regular basis like a diligent gardener uprooting the weeds weekly.
I think the scenario you want to avoid at all costs is the blowing up of your whole life due to unresolved issues.
Take for example the former sports star who had clear childhood trauma but never examined it, which led to constant infidelities plus substance abuse and now his wife has notified him she wants a divorce, his kids hate him and his public image is poor so not many options for income.
He wants to win back his wife and kids but the garden is overrun with weeds and there’s serious time pressure to finalize the divorce.
It’s all coming to a head and it could spell disaster for him.
Thomas Duggan 