Why are there so many last-minute projects?They're too stressful to be enjoyable!I think it's because some folk have fallen into the bad habit of relying on the urgency of 'No time left' to provide all the motivation to work.

When you're young and naive and don't recognize the norms, dating is a nightmare. But once you see the patterns and realize how to play the game then dating becomes quite fun.Rinse and repeat for the working world, school, college, dinner parties, family events etc etc Path to sanity:Step 1 - spotting the gameStep 2 … Continue reading Spotting the game →

It wasn't meant to be. What do you mean? You just weren't supposed to be in Paris this weekend What? I believe that had you gone to Paris this weekend that you would have been mugged or shot. ... In other words a larger than life figure stepped in to help you avoid a disaster. … Continue reading It wasn’t meant to be →

In my experience of making stupid errors they are so much easier when done in private.Similarly they are made a hundred times worse at the mere thought of confessing to others.For example if you had decided on a secret spur of the moment trip to London but in the excitement of being so spontaneous you … Continue reading Telling others shame →

For someone who's only known self criticism all their life, the 'loving yourself no matter what' philosophy is a mind bending paradigm. How do you get anything done? How do you determine the good days from the bad days? This logic means you could sit on the couch all day vegetating and the next cure … Continue reading Loving oneself →

In the same way that hate begets hate I reckon lethargy begets lethargy

It's funny how most Irish youngsters leave for the same 3 destinations - Australia, New Zealand, and Canada.The lack of a language barrier and the volume of Irish already over there makes it seem like a conservative adventure.Like they're just looking for a version of Ireland that's warmer and further from their parents.Compare them to … Continue reading Canada New Zealand Australia →

Dear Kim Kenny, micromanager extraordinaire, I have two direct reports and they complain that I'm on top of them too much. Do you have any advice for getting round this?Sincerely yours,Lenny LinHi Lenny,Great question! What I do is, when one of my employees are getting close to being fed up with me. I avoid the … Continue reading Talking to A through B →

'Ok I guess I'll go out into the freezing cold so. In my old age and everything, with my susceptibility to get colds. I hope I don't slip and break my hip.'When it's hammed up and intended as a joke it can be very funny but when it's employed seriously by adults it's an obvious … Continue reading Obvious manipulation →

What does a culture of fear look like?When the mid-level individuals agree with the confusion of the lowest level and can't explain the decision from up top satisfactorily.