On the one hand you don't want to be an interfering person but on the other hand it's painful to watch a loved one slowly walk to their doom. What's more, the best change happens when the individual wants to change for themselves. Very little progress happens when you force them into it. It's a … Continue reading Autonomy or interfering →

This was not an argument to understand each other's points of view. This is a challenge to make the other side admit how intelligent you are. Nobody's listening, everybody's making the same points louder and louder.

I think competitiveness can add an excitement to a game. The board game is no longer a means to pass the time, now it's personal. But I think it's a very fine balance to strike. I think humour is often required to release the tension. I also think when winning becomes a way to demean … Continue reading Competitiveness →

"You have limitless potential, which makes what you've achieved so far, so shit" "You can do anything you put your mind to. Too bad all you think about is overeating and masterbating" You don't get much gallows humour these days and I reckon it's because it flies in the face of the personal empowerment movement … Continue reading Rare gallows humour →

Christmas is great for bringing everyone back home. No matter how far away you migrated to, for a week you return to your hometown. Then wandering the streets on Christmas Eve becomes an informal disorganized reunion. Where you see the range of social skills and gregariousness on display. Some avoid eye contact, some nod, and … Continue reading Sporadic reunion →

Merry Christmas everyone I hope you have a wonderful day filled with the things you can't buy in life.

Gary and Cartman are speaking with a member of the public while being observed by their master Tijuan. After the 30 minutes Gary was delighted because Cartman lost his cool and Gary didn't. While Tijuan delivered the expected punishment Gary laughed with glee. But then unexpectedly Tijuan turned on Gary and scolded him for being … Continue reading Gary’s neverending journey →

When I heard the man I was going to be meeting was mentally disabled I was preparing to use small words and talk slowly. Then I saw how much responsibility he had and how well he managed his disability. I immediately had to dial up the accountability and dial down the sympathy in my head … Continue reading Accountability spectrum →

Learning by doing is probably the best strategy for the overachiever perfectionist types because making mistakes will drive them crazy and therefore accelerate their learning to prevent mistakes.

At the moment my algorithm is throwing up lots of videos of porch thieves getting instant karma via the stolen package exploding. The colourful explosion is quite a sight to behold but what's even more fascinating is when some of these thieves scream at the video camera - I'm going to call the cops on … Continue reading Karma for porch thieves →