The top 5 moments of your life are... I found this exercise quite interesting because one theme dominated the top 5. So, I thought, deep down, that theme must be my idea of a quality life. Now that I know this, I can align my future accordingly.

It's funny I think the majority of people are actually quite content with their lot. Their needs are met and their desires are modest or simple. And this majority only want more money in their salaries not out of greed but simply to afford a small plot of land in this ever increasingly expensive world.

Watching 'first dates' you can quickly spot those who have absolutely no idea how to be on a date. Dates are like board games. There are certain rules to follow, certain norms expected and you can shine by being creative within these guidelines. And it's a tragedy to see someone naively blundering around throwing up … Continue reading No idea →

When presenting to my sports team I was going to liken an approach to tag rugby with an approach to Uno. You have some cards, you get to use them to decide the course of the game but ultimately you are victim to the other players agendas too. Therefore winning is a combination of a … Continue reading Ubiquitous uno →

The rule of 40. The 80-20 principle. The rule of 3s. All attempts by humans to make sense of and gain guarantees in this chaotic thing we call life.

The problem with imagining the future is that it doesn't come with a caveat. There should be a big red disclaimer in our mental projections that there's a strong chance this won't happen. So, we get attached to our plans which makes everything worse when chance plays cruel tricks on us. Picture a fancy man … Continue reading Mental disclaimer →

It's not often that I say this but I like it because it's difficult. It's within the Goldilocks sweet spot of not too hard and not too easy. So my brain is activated, not overwhelmed and eager to rise to the challenge.

Shwasy has been nursing a crush for 10 years and counting now. Even though the desired person now both lives in a different country and is in a committed relationship with someone else, the longing continues. Solezy on the other hand felt that pain and learnt that lesson years ago. When Solezy feels a crush … Continue reading Shwasy longing →

Keano is not the person to celebrate with. His enthusiasm is stunted. But Wrighty's is limitless. He'll be delighted for you and won't hold back in showing it either. Michael is also not a port of call for an avalanche of positivity. He's present but mentally absent. The lights are on but he's away. He'll … Continue reading Reaction gauging →

Are you moving through time under the assumption that you will eventually reach a problem free stage in life? I definitely was and still am. I haven't fully broken free of the dream that there is a peaceful Nirvana on the horizon waiting for me. Maybe it's the notion of heaven that's been bandied around … Continue reading A problem free time →