I think odd comments come from feeling obliged to communicate but at the same time wanting to hide something.Now to be clear I'm not talking about silly conversations where the purpose is to be silly and have fun.I mean weird ways of admitting mistakes, or unusual ways of saying I love you.They know the words, … Continue reading Odd comments →

How to change others?The answer ultimately comes down to - accepting them for who they are.There may be some minor Pavlovian tactics to provoke initial wins but eventually you come to the crucial factor - do they want to change themselves?That's where it's all won or lost.

I think a key skill to project management is anticipating the domino effect. Not everyone will be included in every conversation. Some need to lock themselves in a cave for a while to be productive. If plans change, who can spot the entirety of the ripples it will have on other matters? And will they … Continue reading Domino effect →

As far as work know I'm on a break but the chores see me as working. Then when I want a break from work and the chores, my phone gives me dopamine hit, after dopamine hit. It's no wonder I end the day mentally exhausted. I've claimed to be on breaks but my brain has … Continue reading Brain breaks →

It's easy putting together a photography exhibit. Everyone has hundreds of photos on their phones. The hard bit is dealing with the fear of being judged. That will drive you crazy as you agonise over which photos are the best.

Mel Robbins' book 'The Let Them Theory' is all about control. It's a helpful resource for the anxious, a cautionary tale for the over controlling, and a comment on the prominence of fear in an uncertain world.

Some may say having a rock collection is for children. But to the adult mind, jaded by yet another unspectacular beach, the task of picking the 5 best stones has a great byproduct of appreciating the uniqueness and beauty of nature you would otherwise overlook.

Behind the seemingly impartial advice you can just feel the personal agenda. It's like an anxiety for the future and/or desire to control others. They've gone just a mite further than someone just throwing their 2 cents in. They have become attached to this outcome and there is a desperate need to convince you to … Continue reading Hidden agenda →

It's 1973 and Rita is following Frank's instructions to drive from Cork to Dublin. It's been going well so far, she's followed all the directions successfully but now she's coming to a crossroads and the right turn she is supposed to take is blocked due to roadworks. If Rita were to be completely loyal to … Continue reading Resourceful Rita →

I think the concerned ego-less friend doesn't care who you confide in just as long as you don't suffer in silence. I think the ego-centred friend takes great pride that you confided in them and will brag about it to your other friends. Alternatively if they know you're suffering, they will push the hardest to … Continue reading Ego-centred confidant →