I think with any newly formed group the first unwritten and unspoken assessment is - where is my place in all this? Org charts, while they reek of the corporate world, satisfy a primal human need to know the pecking order. If someone is out of sorts, in a new cohort, it could be because … Continue reading Pecking order assessment →

I think once you slow down, remove distractions and listen to the surrounding environment you start to hear the indifference. The world is proceeding without you. Time waits for no man. It's a great perspective reminder. When you die, the majority of the world will not care one but, it will just be another day … Continue reading Indifferent noise →

There are those that are financially wealthy. You can tell they are so from their flash cars, big houses, and expensive outfits. Then there are those that are time wealthy. They are harder to spot but a tell tale sign might be a big smile on their face. They figured out that money is not … Continue reading Time wealthy →

It was disturbing to see the hate for this person and I reckon it's a question of proximity. They are not pure evil, so the closer you get to this person the more you see their kinder softer sides. The more distance you keep and limit your observations to one setting the more likely you … Continue reading Hating from a distance →

I think from a distance the mean people always appear only mean. Their nastiness is baffling and evokes annoyance or anger in you. But when you're forced to interact with them more, when you try to adopt their point of view, when you offer them kindness plus empathy, and they reply with more cruelty - … Continue reading Pitying the nasty →

There are certain people you could add to a group and the dial measuring culture would not move at all. Then there are personalities so big that the culture is infinitely different when they are present or not. I think you need to do your due diligence when considering accepting the larger than life character. … Continue reading Culture changers →

"All you need is love" - such a simple and profound statement. A little more love in childhood would have cured the serial cheater, the aggressive boss, the anxious worrier, and the walking talking vacuum of confidence. A little more self love would cure them all today too. It goes to show, it's not just … Continue reading All you need →

"But what if we get married and in childbirth she dies leaving me with triplets to raise by myself?" "Mark, all I'm suggesting is you go over and talk to her, stay in touch with reality, she's probably going to reject you." "Raising 3 kids by yourself is no joke Brett!" "Mark, how long are … Continue reading Mark’s triplets →

Helping can be the drug that sneaks up on you. At first it appears so wholesome and you get such a natural high that you want to do it again and on a bigger scale. Now, to be clear, I'm not slating helping. Helping is great but like drugs there can be a downside. You've … Continue reading The helping addiction →

In the hospital the other day, there was a recurring theme from the various doctors and nurses seen. We're gonna treat the symptoms rather than find the root of the problem. I don't blame them for this approach. I imagine it's the system that robs them of the time necessary for investigating issues and getting … Continue reading Symptoms not roots →