When presenting to my sports team I was going to liken an approach to tag rugby with an approach to Uno. You have some cards, you get to use them to decide the course of the game but ultimately you are victim to the other players agendas too. Therefore winning is a combination of a … Continue reading Ubiquitous uno →

The rule of 40. The 80-20 principle. The rule of 3s. All attempts by humans to make sense of and gain guarantees in this chaotic thing we call life.

The problem with imagining the future is that it doesn't come with a caveat. There should be a big red disclaimer in our mental projections that there's a strong chance this won't happen. So, we get attached to our plans which makes everything worse when chance plays cruel tricks on us. Picture a fancy man … Continue reading Mental disclaimer →

It's not often that I say this but I like it because it's difficult. It's within the Goldilocks sweet spot of not too hard and not too easy. So my brain is activated, not overwhelmed and eager to rise to the challenge.

Shwasy has been nursing a crush for 10 years and counting now. Even though the desired person now both lives in a different country and is in a committed relationship with someone else, the longing continues. Solezy on the other hand felt that pain and learnt that lesson years ago. When Solezy feels a crush … Continue reading Shwasy longing →

Keano is not the person to celebrate with. His enthusiasm is stunted. But Wrighty's is limitless. He'll be delighted for you and won't hold back in showing it either. Michael is also not a port of call for an avalanche of positivity. He's present but mentally absent. The lights are on but he's away. He'll … Continue reading Reaction gauging →

Are you moving through time under the assumption that you will eventually reach a problem free stage in life? I definitely was and still am. I haven't fully broken free of the dream that there is a peaceful Nirvana on the horizon waiting for me. Maybe it's the notion of heaven that's been bandied around … Continue reading A problem free time →

Simple pleasures - You get the sense that they are cousins with gratitude and optimism but at the same time they feel like their own being. An average Joe might compare their routines to celebrity lives and label their own lifestyle boring. Then a well written School of Life book comes along, points out some … Continue reading Simple pleasures →

After their podcast interview, Ronnie O'Sullivan joined Jamie Carragher, Roy Keane, and Ian Wright in a game of snooker. Mentally speaking the footballers were in a great position. They were heavy underdogs and it was for a bit of fun. But for Ronnie, 7 time world champion, all the expectation is on him to win, … Continue reading Ronnie’s pressure →

I think TV becomes the default answer when we struggle with the question - how should we spend our free time? I think if you died and were given a second chance at life you'd hardly spend that second chance watching even more TV.