The universe must have a sense of humour. For when you complain of distractions and not being able to get anything done, what happens next? You get a distraction free day and are completely left alone to do the work. Then you find the work interminably boring or excruciatingly challenging and before long are searching … Continue reading Distracted or bored →

How do I life coach someone who doesn't want to change? You don't. The one crucial foundation stone of change is that they have to want it for themselves. The best advice in the world falls on deaf ears if they don't want to hear it. You can add tension to their life. Tension is … Continue reading They don’t want change →

Queer Eye is a funny concept. It appears that celebrities and a camera crew have a better chance of changing a person than their own spouse. On the surface that sounds like a sorry state of affairs. Why aren't these people listening to their closest loved ones? But then again a stranger can have more … Continue reading Spouse v celebrity →

I think bad fortune is made ten times worse when we bemoan - why me? The narrative of deserving good luck and being victimized means exerting a lot of energy and dwelling in a negative and unproductive state. Today is a new day. The world doesn't owe you anything. Now, how are you going to … Continue reading Bad fortune moaning →

It would be a great world if you could rely on others to always have your best interests at heart. I think attachment to this ideal probably speaks to a desire to have faith in humanity. So it can feel hurtful when others prioritize their agenda over your wellbeing but maybe it should be downgraded … Continue reading Protecting the self →

I think the ego loves the unspoiled label of: "Written and directed by: ..." That kind of movie credit means you can claim 95% of the praise if it's a success. I think the ego hates the buried generic credit of: "Walking man #14: ..." Your character didn't even get a name, that's how forgettable … Continue reading Ego credit →

You hate to see bad things happen to good people, that's why you try and save the person taking the fall for the others. But at some point you can't keep saving the wanna-be Martyr. At some point it feels like it would bring them greater happiness to be the Martyr rather than saving them.

At the age of 23 Giovanni completed his first marathon in 5 hours and 36 minutes. To the rest of the world this is not noteworthy. The winner finished a whole Lord of the Rings movie before Giovanni. You might even say Giovanni should be ashamed of himself. There was people twice his age finishing … Continue reading Giovanni’s well →

There's lots of things to be jealous of. But a new one that I've just learned from listening to Alain De Botton speak on Modern Wisdom is compassion. That the bully might select their victim based on a jealousy of the amount of love the victim has clearly received. The bully has received very little, … Continue reading Compassion jealousy →

You know what would be great? A smart watch that could tell you what you're psychologically feeling. With precision too. Not like those cheap mood rings that only seem to reach two out of ten of the possible colours. Like imagine if you got a notification that said: Right now you are feeling: 23% lonely … Continue reading Emotionally intelligent watch →