We made the mistake of getting too attached to a house. We were too far gone into the dream of living there. We didn't even entertain the notion that we might not get it. Then when we didn't get it the devastation was unbearable. Now we're bidding on another house and I don't need to … Continue reading Pain learns →

"And they lived happily ever after..." That last line has caught the imagination of so many and I think it alludes to the fantasy of 'no more problems'. It resonates so much because everyone wishes for a time when the problems stop, when we live in peace with no suffering.

I think a big step in the self love journey is moving the cause for your failings away from 'because you're a bad person' toward 'because you're a sad person'. The inner critic will skin you alive for every indiscipline but at some point you picked up that unhealthy coping mechanism for a reason. Life … Continue reading Bad to sad →

The aging 'playa' just locks in to charming the next lady. He doesn't stop to reflect on the loneliness. He just defaults to what he's good at. He can't see the wood for the trees. He sees a nail and he is the hammer. He could stop and ask: Is this the right nail for … Continue reading Skill and direction →

AI is like a lazy actor, it just wants to say the lines and go home. You have to be the exacting Director. You have to guide the performance and push it and give it reference points in order to squeeze out of it that great content. It's not a mind reader. Not yet anyway.

Winning someone over to your point of view can be so satisfying that we can get lost in the challenge of it. Sometimes its better to stop pushing and take on their point of view. Because ultimately there comes a point when the persistence becomes annoying and you start to hinder your own cause.

Frustration left alone can be toxic but recycled it can become social bonding material. Two adults with a big generational gap connect over the difficulties of buying a house. The teacher looking to become an accountant bonds with the teenager over the monotony of studying.

I think a good rule of thumb for contentious conversations is - are you ok with it being screenshot? If you're comfortable with everyone else seeing it then you have nothing to hide and nothing to fear.

I think the more insecure the individual the less likely they are to own up to their mistakes. They'll push blame this way and that way, because in their head their identity can't survive taking responsibility for a gaffe.

I think when the emotion is disproportionate to the scenario then there is an ice berg belief at play. There is some kind of trauma or deep unconscious thinking actually pulling the strings here.