I couldn't quite put my finger on it but something felt off. Maybe it was the delivery or the tone or the pace, I don't know. But I reckon it would have been done a lot better and I would have been laughing if Ricky Gervais had written and directed it. Makes me think how … Continue reading Fragile comedy →

When Carl is there and the group is a 4 it resembles a rugby changing room with all its accompanying lad banter and toxic masculinity. But when Carl is absent and the group is a 3 the conversation plumbs new emotional depths. I wouldn't blame you for believing it was a completely different group. The … Continue reading Dynamic change →

Gaslighting is bad but what's worse is not challenging it. You see some friends try to gaslight each other and they can laugh about it and what really happened becomes a running joke for years. But when you know in your bones that you're right and they're wrong but the relationship doesn't feel strong enough … Continue reading Not challenging →

There is such an emphasis on new information in the media and most of it is useless. Timothee Chalamet won the Golden globe. Kim Kardashian is getting a divorce. Tesla announce their new car. Why doesn't the important stuff get more circulation? Like how to be more emotionally intelligent or a reminder that life is … Continue reading Importants →

Hearing the sporting greats talk about their craft is fantastic. For you hear the nuance and thought that went into their improvement. It adds weight to the narrative that everything can be learnt. You can demystify the divine acts and replicate them. This is an encouraging thought to the aspiring audience member who wishes to … Continue reading Nuance talk →

The wise man always appears to be so tender. There's no behaviour that shocks him. No act that is irredeemable. He always approaches the subject with such compassion that it shows that there are higher levels of kindness one can extend to strangers beyond opening doors.

It's funny watching the U20s six nations game I had to catch myself on when it came to criticizing. Despite having the same kit, the commentators, and the live crowd they are still kids. They're not professionals yet and deserving of my full criticisms.

I found it fascinating to hear Shane Horgan talk about watching Gordon D'Arcy and Brian O'Driscoll's decline and I agree that agility is crucial to improving as you age. It's a great reminder of being human, of the inevitably of age, and how the greats are great because they choose to reinvent themselves constantly to … Continue reading Declining stars →

The problem with periods of incompetence that there's no deadline to them. They're very poorly designed really. Otherwise my motivation would be much higher if I knew when it was all going to click into place. But no, I'm just sitting here feeling like an idiot for what feels like an eternity and looks like … Continue reading Incompetence period →

The cautious decision maker is scared because they fear making the wrong decision and what helps them feel comfortable with deciding is time, options, and deep thought. They are capable of making a quick decision so long as all of these requirements are satisfied. They absolutely hate making decisions knowing little about the situation and … Continue reading Give em time and space →