Envy is going to rear it's ugly head every now and then and I think it's healthiest to use it. Envy is a sign of desire. You don't get envious of terminally ill people. You get jealous of those you feel are doing better than you in an area you'd like to be further along. … Continue reading Using envy →

I've noticed there is a period before the rapport. When meeting with an old friend or family member I haven't seen in a while there appears to be a stage where we try to get on the same wave length. Then, and I can't tell you exactly when, it eventually does click and the conversation … Continue reading Pre sync →

I draw my confidence from practice. Every training session where I throw that left handed pass I build a bank of confidence that on the day I can do it. It doesn't guarantee that I will do it (I'm always suspicious of people who say they will achieve their goal with certainty). Every time I … Continue reading Confidence practice →

First there is the headline regurgitator: "Ya know there was this cat named Lao Tzu and he said there was a natural flow to the universe and we should go with it rather than fight it" Then there is the selective memory type who remembers the philosophy to suit them: "There was a reason we … Continue reading Wu Wei levels →

Oh god I've got 3 days til the presentation and I'm terrified I'll be shit.So, be shit now.Be shit in the form of a physical written down draft.Then critique it til it's good.That's my best advice for presentation anxiety.

They said: "I'm just telling you this so that you know. I don't want your sympathy, I don't want you to tell me I'm brave. This is purely just an FYI" In that regard I felt trapped. My instinct was to show compassion and commend their courage but they explicitly said they don't want that. … Continue reading Reply prison →

There was a noticeable difference when the support act played one of their own songs and when they played a cover. The crowd went from indifferent to engaged. It made me wonder - do up and coming bands keep cover songs in their repertoire with the sole purpose of grabbing the audience's attention?

The thing about polite society is that you don't ask people to move from their seat.Even if it's one person in a busy pub at a table that seats four.The seat seeking patrons will hold their tongue and make do elsewhere.

Once you sense an insecurity it's best to stop asking questions.Because with each question you get closer to their uncomfortable admission that the reason behind it all, is madness.

I think anyone who gets nitpicky when reviewing a first draft is revealing some issues. Maybe they're envious? Maybe they want to put the creator down? Maybe they're raising the standards for acceptable so that no one can reach them and make them feel better about themselves? It's a first draft. It's supposed to be … Continue reading First draft nitpicking →