I think assertiveness is such a cool skill because in the face of infinite possibilities you're not overwhelmed by perfection but strongly asserting a direction.

Anxiety: "But what if you make a mistake? That alone is cause to be nervous." Therapist: "And what exciting outcomes are possible too?" I could be so good, I win MVP Therapist: "What else?" ... Anxiety unchecked could have you paralyzed with fear. But listing enough dreamlike possibilities (that we recognize may not come true) … Continue reading Anxiety unchecked →

Michael Jordan's ambition was to be the best basketball player in the world so he used his creativity, problem solving skills and imagination to answer questions like: How can I remain dominant despite aging? There was never a need to tell Michael to go practice, his motivation was relentless. Whether as Golaf's ambition is simply … Continue reading Ambitions →

The theories in my head are best tested by outside perspectives. Nothing shows up conspiracy better than another witness to the scenario completely baffled by my suggestion.

The announcement came through, there is gonna be a morning TV segment on the local community. And the gender split of those who replied was 2 guys and 16 girls. Now you could argue this isn't a statistically big enough sample to make any comment on society. Or you could say this is a great … Continue reading Local TV segment →

My physio tells me my ankle pain is due to my body compensating for a childhood injury to my hip. My therapist blindsides me by linking my pattern of warring with authority figures to unresolved issues with my parents. My dietician reckons I'm eating, not out of hunger, but in a desire to numb myself … Continue reading Who’s running the show? →

I think there is a cohort of people who read self help books because they are curious to find out what is wrong with them but find therapy too uncomfortable.

"Attack is the best form of defence" A seemingly backward statement that can actually work in sport. After all the opposition can't score if you have the ball. But it also seems to be the motto of the insecure and it's a terrible strategy for relationships. While a game is finite, reputations can last forever. … Continue reading Attacking defence →

I get the impression that Jasper hates being given work. It's a battle trying to give him a task. 'Do I have to?''Can't someone else do it?''Why don't we kick this down the road?'It's clear that Jasper doesn't want to work and I reckon if he keeps up this resistance he'll get exactly what he … Continue reading Jasper’s resistance →

The deliberately vague master was challenged by the seeking to understand student. "Can you be more prescriptive please?" The master looked irked at this request. He would rather stay esoteric and mystical. A few moments later the master singles out the same student in front of the rest of the class for a comment they … Continue reading Vague v prescriptive →