The old lady in front of you is slow moving and getting confused with the ticket machine and despite your frustration you say to yourself this is a good opportunity to practice patience. Then you get to your car and the owner of the neighbouring car is also arriving just ahead of you. For some … Continue reading Patience limits →

I think it's a very adult realization to see how fragile the world really is. That couple that convinced you soulmates are a real thing, they're breaking up. Why? Because no relationship is impenetrable. That guy you played with as a kid, who was unbelievably talented and had so much potential - he didn't make … Continue reading Fragile world →

For some reason most people seem to grow up believing life is fair. Good people get rewarded for their behavior and bad people get punished. Then it's a very sad realization as an adult to see bad things happen to good people. Maybe it's how we're raised as kids. When you do something good, you … Continue reading Internalized rule →

It was a sad day for humanity when John decided to make Bert feel bad but what was even worse was that Bert let him. When John came in with all those insults and put downs Bert didn't see it as nonsense or for what it truly was, a hurt person trying to hurt someone … Continue reading Complicit Bert →

Some Taskmaster contestants provide great entertainment not in their jobs but in their conflicted personalities. So you suspect they come on the show, because it provides a good platform to expose oneself to a new type of audience that might come to like you and wish to see you do stand-up. Therefore there is a … Continue reading Torn desires →

Everyone has their baggage and in one way or another it's gonna come out. It's impossible to keep it locked up forever. Life is too long, you have to relax at some time and even by being locked up and not spontaneous you reveal your baggage by default. I think the best way to deal … Continue reading Baggage leakage →

I saw a video of Portia Woodman walking into the Twickenham stadium for the 3rd/4th playoff game and she was crying. Now I think a seasoned professional like herself would know the dangers of getting too emotional before a game. But the context had to be taken into account. This will be her last game … Continue reading Sad joy →

Life is hard and it's made even harder with a lack of self compassion. One thing I've learnt from reading psychology books is that the unconscious mind has subtle coping mechanisms for dealing with stress or pain. So instead of lambasting oneself for a lack of discipline it could be worth asking oneself - am … Continue reading Compassion for unconscious →

It's funny how the body can get used to a certain speed. Like maybe you set the speed to manage a particularly busy period and that became the new 'cruise control'. However, now the busy period is over and it's time to relax but the body is still on cruise control and you have to … Continue reading Body cruise control →

The apology was probably unnecessary but it made me feel better and now I can move on. It's like confessing before the investigation gets to you. I'm taking away all the ambiguity and tension now. It may be overkill but I'm acting within the values I choose.