"Once I get a hold of my anxiety, then I'll be happy" The yin and yang symbol didn't wait til it was fully white before becoming an iconic symbol. It did it with some darkness. In fact, if it had been all white, it would be boring. Who cares about just a white circle?

I used to think it would be great if I could master psychology because then I could become impenetrable and hone in on a bully's weakness and tear them to shreds. But now that I've learnt a little bit it's become clear that we're all messed up. Even the most successful in the world aren't … Continue reading Learning psychology →

I just heard George Mumford admonishing the idea of embracing everything that comes your way. Think Jim Carrey in Yes Man. And I like that idea because it leaves no room for anxiety or fear. If what comes your way is positive then the convenience and luck is great! If what arrives on your doorstep … Continue reading Embracing everything →

As soon as you share the information you lose control of how it's used. For example if I were to enlighten Harry Potter that his parents were murdered by He who must not be named then I would instill a furious desire in him for vengeance. I don't want Harry to get killed but there's … Continue reading Cats out of the bag →

The stillness is unsettling. I want to reach for my phone so bad. The Instagram. The YouTube. The TikTok. They scream in my ear. Usually I cave at this point but today it wasn't possible. Eventually the screams seemed to realise this and slowly started to die in my ear. Then in the silence another … Continue reading Quietening the screaming →

I have to say it's refreshing to see an example of success built around inputs in Ted Lasso. I think too much of goals revolve around outcomes. Hitting targets, box office results, and no. of followers for example. It's a stressful way to operate because of the simple fact that all that stuff is out … Continue reading Inputs not outcomes →

Why do great ideas arrive at the last second? Because that's when we actually had a proper think about it. So a great habit is to set yourself deadlines and an even better skill is to sit yourself down and have a proper think long before the deadline looms large.

Most biographies and documentaries reckon Michael Jordan's competitive nature was forged in fierce battles between siblings in the backyard growing up. Michael Jordan as a child, instilled the belief that 'in order to win my father's love I need to be the best of the kids at basketball'. Whilst that belief could be classified as … Continue reading Motivation matured →

I think when you're put in tricky situations it can potentially salvage your relationships by letting the other know where this action/view is coming from. I think it helps to know who's it coming from and whether it's forced or not. Points that resentment away from you and onto the person who put you in … Continue reading Tricky situation →

The little kid wanted to help his mother tidy but ended up making more of a mess. Similarly, the recently retired husband decided to help his wife with the gardening issue but ended up ruining her entire system. The intention was there but the alignment on how best to help wasn't.