To offer an alternative reason for micromanagement other than perceived lack of trust. It could be that they somehow came to the conclusion that they need to be in control for success to happen. It may have nothing to do with you and everything to do with their craving for certainty.

I reckon the people who annoy us most remind us of ourselves.

I think as a species we have an innate desire to rationalize behaviour. It's the only way we can make sense of the human condition. When we hear wildly shocking behaviour, finding out why it happened is the crucial factor to determine whether we are damning or sympathetic.

I think when you're making a decision based off the opinions of others you are immediately at a disadvantage. Because their perceptions are tainted by their world views. What they might describe as violent, you might describe as tame. And so, I think to make a decision that you're proud of you need to, as … Continue reading Piggy eyes →

Shame, as I've learned from Brené Brown recently, stems from a fear of disconnection. For example Bob doesn't tell his parents he's gay for fear of being disowned. Ironically though, in some cases shame's argument to not confess does more harm when it comes to disconnection. For example finding out your husband cheated on you … Continue reading Ironic shame →

If you want your problems taken away from you, don't lean into the dip, don't clear your schedule, just talk loudly about them near someone who can't help solving problems. Then boom, they're taken care of for the measly fee of over the top gratitude 😛

'Hmm that job could be Bob's but it could also be Bert's' 'Bob, Bert, did either of you pick up that task?' 'No' 'Nope' 'I thought he was doing it' they chanted in unison. ... I think the majority of work, in the working world, that nobody wants to do, gets done out of a … Continue reading Explicitly responsible →

High expectations are the double edged sword that push you to new heights for preparation and cut you deep when you fail. They're best served with a nice warm serving of self compassion.

There is a man standing on the corner of Rathgar road and Hazelwood avenue flapping and waving his hands skyward.103 people walked by before the curiosity got the better of Hazel and she asked the man -What are you doing?I'm keeping away the giraffesPaint Hazel's face confused.But there are no giraffes aroundThe man smiled, winked … Continue reading Giraffe waving →

The phrase: "If everyone jumped off a bridge would you join them?" is a great parallel to the troubling rise of ghosting. Just because rudeness is becoming more acceptable doesn't mean you should do it too.