There's a difference between participating and trying to win. It's a different posture and a different mindset. And until you explicitly say our goal is to win, there's a danger people will assume we're here to participate.

I think most people, when creating the perfect world, would do away with suffering. Less pain please!And I agree, if I had the option, I would banish it to the fourth dimension too. But thinking more on it. Because it's ubiquitous it serves as a great back up for connection. For example, colleagues who have … Continue reading Suffering connection →

I don't think anyone chooses to be a compulsive liar.I think everyone would like to be honest and truthful.But for the compulsive liar, lying became a necessity to survive.They had to think quickly to avoid a violent parent or to cover up a potential vulnerability.

I think the majority of people would acknowledge that everyone has their own little voice in their head dictating their actions. And yet, there are those who get confused and even angry when unexpected or illogical behaviour happens. Which leads me to believe that the majority have not fully absorbed that others act in accordance … Continue reading Your lil voice →

I think the way to put manners on a manipulator is to expose their duplicitous nature. Shine a light on their texts, record their calls, share their voice notes. The politicians never bother the victims of their scandals after they've gone to the press. Why would they? The victims have shown that the area around … Continue reading Shining the light →

I think when an adult shows a lack of character the best route is disappointment followed by the lowering of expectations. To paraphrase Buddha (I think) getting angry is like drinking poison and hoping your enemy will die. So we don't want to sit there seething, hoping they will get the message via telepathy. Instead … Continue reading Absence of character →

September 1st 2011.It was to be a glorious day.Why?Because after 5 years of playing in the muck and mud, we were finally sixth years and earned the right to train in the mini stadium on our school grounds. The grass was so lush it looked like a thick green carpet!We were all on the pitch … Continue reading The mini stadium →

I think, to an outsider, trusting oneself looks a lot like aimless wondering and time wasting but it's actually letting your inner wisdom take over. For example the inner critic might say:Why the hell are we spending so much time making fart noises? We have a report to write!But instinct is, in an abstract way, … Continue reading Trusting oneself →

I think it's mad that there is an outcry for Roy Keane to become the next Irish football mens manager. Yes he was a successful player, winning 19 competitions but it's a completely different skill set. Yes he's a very entertaining pundit but coaching a football team is a completely different skillset. From all the … Continue reading Roy Keane for manager →

Jericho knows the flaws off all around him off by heart and keeps them top of mind. Why? Because if they try to reject him, he will be able to reject them back, harder.