The unspoken assumptions.They threaten to derail a good marriage or jeopardize a healthy co-ownership.What standards are you holding the other person to without telling them?You might not even realize you're doing it. These unwritten rules might be deep in your psyche slowly eating away at your relationship.To misquote agent Smith from The matrix:"Find them and … Continue reading Unspoken assumptions →

Why did that accusation hurt so much? All other accusations fell like water off a duck's back but that one hit home because it aggravated a deep seeded fear.

"There is no such thing as a rational consumer" + "Because the boss said so" + Spending $300,000 on a watch when your phone has a clock. = Considering the above is it worth learning logic? In a world where the majority of decisions are emotional ones would we be better off understanding the irrational … Continue reading Is logic worth it? →

It's easier to be compassionate to another than oneself.The inner critic taints all evidence to suit their own conclusion and they have a stranglehold on your train of thoughts.But another person, a trusted companion, will not suffer this bias and can offer a contrary view of reality.One that is much fairer to your well-intentioned soul.Therefore … Continue reading Compassion partner →

Jonesy wakes up on Sunday morning with a full free day stretched out ahead of her.She writes a list of everything she could possibly do that day.But not all items are equal.There are items on that list that she feels she has to do otherwise her inner critic will beat her mercilessly and she doesn't … Continue reading Slave to self critic →

There is bullying happening in the classroom. Is the teacher oblivious or are they turning a blind eye? I think neither are good but I reckon turning a blind eye is much worse.Being oblivious can be forgiven, they're probably naive and once they realize their mistake they'll never make it again but knowing a child … Continue reading Oblivious or blind eye →

When it came time for the critic to turn out some work it was sloppy with basic mistakes. I called it irony but I imagine psychologists would call it fitting. Because when you make the standards so high that no one else can reach them it makes you feel better about your own limited talent.

I think when you show preferential treatment to one subgroup you have to prepare for when it goes to their heads. For example by all means give the sales department all the benefits and leave none for the rest. But as soon as salespeople start walking around abusing their status thinking that they are above … Continue reading Special subgroup →

I think when one person lies it's the individual, when it's two people it's a coincidence but when it's 3, it's the culture.Why would good people do bad things unless the environment pressures them to do so.

Putting your phone on airplane mode and deleting Tiktok is a great start. Preserving your calm when your deep seeded fears are enflamed is a great hurdle to overcome.