Milo is a very good reader. He reads a lot. In fact one time when the latest novel of Milo’s favourite series came out, Milo read it in one sitting. It took him all night but he powered through it.
So Kiki sees this and recommends a book to Milo. Then a couple of weeks later Kiki asks Milo what he thought of the book.
Milo says he got about halfway through and then just put it down and didn’t pick it back up.
Kiki asks why and Milo just shrugs, says I don’t know and changes the conversation.
This baffles Kiki because Milo is such an avid reader.
What is it about this book that made Milo stop reading?
Kiki found it to be such an empowering book. It’s message was you can change your life and this is how to do it. Kiki loved it and had started implementing the practices into her everyday life.
She decided to give Milo another book about the same topic that she had found useful.
But the same thing happened again.
Then Kiki thought maybe Milo didn’t want to hear about improving his life. Because if Milo acknowledges his responsibility for everything bad in his life then he wouldn’t be able to use any of his excuses.
His list of reasons for not being more successful vanishes the moment he admits it.
He would have no hiding place. He would actually have to look himself in the eye and say you’re the reason you’re unhappy and he’s not ready to admit that.
He may be completely oblivious to what he’s doing because this self sabotage is so deeply ingrained in his subconscious but yeah, not everyone actually wants to improve their life, they’d prefer to complain.
Thomas Duggan 