If you are agonizing over the wording of a message or email it is most likely because you are scared. Scared of being judged and or rejected.
The reality is, as I see it, that ‘How’s things?’ is barely different to ‘How are you?’. It will probably never occur to the audience that there was an alternative option.
The ongoing debate between the two options is simply procrastination. A way to avoid the hard task of sending the message and putting oneself out there.
And publish!
Thomas Duggan 