The need to please is weird and shouldn’t be trusted.
The need to please people, even those you don’t know will make you feel ashamed at the most insignificant moments.
For example: You are currently driving your car in the only lane of traffic available to you. There is also a car behind you. As soon as the road widens to include two lanes, the car behind you races past you. Now the need to please shows up and makes you feel ashamed in the pit of your stomach.
You feel as though you weren’t driving fast enough for this random stranger. That somehow you let them down and that the speed with which they overtook you was a display of anger and frustration.
These conclusions are unhelpful.
What if you drew the following conclusions:
Maybe they were in a rush?
Maybe they wanted to see how quickly they could go from 60km/h to 100km/h?
Maybe they have to get to 88mph to get back to the future?
Maybe the speed of your car didn’t cross their mind at all?
To view an incident objectively can help to alleviate the feeling that it was all your fault.
Thomas Duggan 