‘What did they say about me?’
If you had the ability to hear any conversation anyone has about you, behind your back, would you listen?
I think it’s healthier not to.
If it’s behind your back then conversation wasn’t meant for you to hear and they spoke as if you weren’t listening. Therefore if they’ve said something negative they said it without regard for your feelings.
At least saying it to you in person forces some sort of courtesy and manners on them.
‘What did they say about me?’
‘Actually you know what? I don’t want to know.’
Thomas Duggan 