The therapy secret

With your therapist you discover a manipulative or neglectful tactic a loved one uses against you.

Previously you thought it was just a harmless characteristic but the therapist has helped you see how damaging it has been for you.

Epiphanies in therapy are common and I’m not interested in that bit. The part I care about is – what do you do with that information?

If it’s a good revelation you can’t unsee it or forget it.

It sits inside you like a dirty lil secret. It’s a terrible thing to know because it gnaws at you.

You want the pain to stop so you need to make a decision.

Do you confront them?

If you needed a therapist to figure it out you know the insight will be cutting.

It might cut too deep.

Could the relationship survive such a deep cut?

Do you feel like bottling it up would protect them?