I think with relationships you have to get your head straight as soon as possible.
Are you getting back together with them or are you fully broken up?
I know black and white thinking is largely frowned upon but in this scenario it can save lots of people suffering in the vague grey limbo state.
Knowing what you want as soon as possible is a crucial exercise.
“Yes it will be painful to repair but they’re the ones I want to be with.“
Great, well then book the couples counseling session!
“I think the relationship is not salvageable and I can’t go back”
Perfect!
Now we have clarity and all parties can move on.
It’s not impossible for people to confirm breaking up, move on, and still get back together and live happily ever after.
I think it’s just willing letting the ambiguity stretch out that is harmful.
Thomas Duggan 