I think, if you require people to kiss the ring before you do anything for anyone else, they will stop talking to you as soon as they don't need you anymore. Because it's a question of dignity. You're forcing someone to act inferior to gain your services/favours/enrollment. Nobody likes doing that. Even those who feel … Continue reading Kissing the ring →

From the outside it looked like Ricky was getting away with murder and it drove me up the walls. Why is there one rule for him and another for everyone else? Livid doesn't adequately describe it. But then I asked Bert about it. Bert revealed his frustration with the matter too and how he was … Continue reading Ricky reprimanded →

"I never got the nod from the man so I don't know if my speaking up is welcome or not. I want to contribute but I don't feel I have the authority." I think it's wild how much importance consent and approval are given in speaking up. Even if we think our contribution will help … Continue reading Contribution consent →

Paulo came to the studios with his songs half finished. He felt the song would improve with more feedback, more external ideas, more eyeballs looking at the problem. Juan presented his songs to the rest of the group fully finished. Juan detested being dragged into the quagmire of too many cooks and his song being … Continue reading Paulo and Juan’s songs →

Recently I watched the player on player interview between Shaq and Kobe and what struck me was how much time they spent reminiscing on the humane moments. They breezed over the winning of trophies and instead lingered on touching moments like: When the whole team bonded by mooning back those who had mooned them from … Continue reading Kobe and Shaq →

It feels dangerous to admit you have nothing to do in the working world because you just know someone will find something for you to do, whether you like that type of work or not. So everyone keeps their workload vague, doesn't ask too many questions in case the spotlight gets turned on them and … Continue reading Buying relaxation time →

With AI getting smarter and the human preference for convenience you have to ask the question - Are we on the verge of becoming extremely lazy thinkers? I think it'll be like the introduction of the calculator. There's no need to remember how to do those sums anymore we have a machine for that. It'll … Continue reading Redundant thinking →

I really appreciate the 'telling us without shaming us' style of self help writing.It doesn't trigger my delicate sensibilities and it conveys the necessary insights for growth.Winner winner, chicken dinner!

I think when it comes to playing the card game 'Cheat' aka 'Bullshit' winning is the distraction.The real fun comes from calling people cheaters and risking gaining a load of cards.When you're actually trying to win you're hesitant to call someone a cheater because you don't want to risk picking up a load of cards.And … Continue reading Winning cheat →

Jafar fears rejection. Therefore he doesn't talk to women. Now I think the curing of Jafar's fear is experiencing being rejected and seeing that it doesn't kill him. In fact it's actually not that bad at all. Therefore, ironically, Jafar is avoiding the very practice that will heal him (well in my unqualified eyes at … Continue reading Jafar and Kurt →