Journalling is great. It's like you're the detective investigating your own thoughts. Which of course you can do without pen and paper but thoughts are so fleeting you can spiral off one frightened possibility. But with journalling you can accumulate thoughts, build momentum and dig deeper.

I think one of the best skills in tag rugby is reading what's in front of you. Like don't ignore the try scoring opportunity in order to religiously carry out the move. That's not what we want. I think it's the same in any walk of life. When you go on holidays from work you … Continue reading Heads up tag →

There's a possibility they are dying. Which is a scary thought to hold on to. It feels too hot to handle and should be flung away immediately. And you could argue that they were always gonna die. We know that logically but it wasn't a real possibility like it is now. Now we need to … Continue reading No god mode →

It's mad what the body will do to avoid pain. It will unconsciously create a new walk for you. It will secretly distance you from someone or something. It's a master at distracting you to avoid dark thoughts. You may go your whole life with no idea that you are in or unconsciously running from … Continue reading Sneaky bodies →

It was delivered like it was a joke but the implicit message says otherwise. There was one guy in college who used to make nasty comments but dress them up as jokes. So then if you did take offence, which was only natural as he could be quite cutting, he would then make you feel … Continue reading Was it a joke? →

Apparently Tom Brady and Bill Belichek's relationship deteriorated so much that they would often use go-betweens to communicate to each other. They couldn't stand being in the same room as each other. Now I think the proud would hate to be one of those messengers. They would snap back and say - You tell him … Continue reading Brady and Belichek →

I think a young coach might believe that for the team to be bonded and the culture to be good everyone has to be laughing and joking all the time. And I think an experienced coach lets the personalities fall where they may. Let the young bucks get all excited and silly on video games. … Continue reading A bonded team →

It's getting harder and harder to defend them. They seem to never be at fault. From my reading of the incident they do need to take some blame, but they don't see it that way. The longer they let their anger run free and play the victim the more enemies they create. I was sticking … Continue reading Deteriorating loyalty →

I think odd comments come from feeling obliged to communicate but at the same time wanting to hide something.Now to be clear I'm not talking about silly conversations where the purpose is to be silly and have fun.I mean weird ways of admitting mistakes, or unusual ways of saying I love you.They know the words, … Continue reading Odd comments →

How to change others?The answer ultimately comes down to - accepting them for who they are.There may be some minor Pavlovian tactics to provoke initial wins but eventually you come to the crucial factor - do they want to change themselves?That's where it's all won or lost.