After reading roughly 80 pages of The Tao of Pooh - the principles of Taoism demonstrated by Winnie the Pooh' I understand Tao to mean buying a cane shaped pen, that you love the look of, then getting home to find it doesn't work.Then the Tao way would be seeing this as an opportunity for … Continue reading Tao with Pooh →

I find it so strange when an adult says to another adult - I'm disappointed with you.It seems like an attempt to control others with shame by playing parent to their child.They are an adult!They get to make their own decisions and face the consequences of those decisions.Who are you to try and take a … Continue reading Disappointed adults →

The realistic optimist does not get overwhelmed by unrealistic expectations placed on them. They recognize the limitations they face and stick to the realm of their control. "There is only so many hours in the day. Within the allotted time we will show our efforts"

The man threw the ball. The dog didn't chase it. Stupid dog!The man threw the ball. The dog brought the ball back but didn't drop it at the owner's feet. Stupid dog!The man threw the ball. The dog chased it down, collected it in their mouth and now explored the park however they liked. Smart … Continue reading Rules of initiation →

Fair play to the makers of the 'Welcome to Wrexham' documentary. It would have been easy to avoid or divert attention away from the club not offering a contract to Mia Roberts. But instead they acknowledged it in a very caring way.It adds a sense of humanity to the football club.

You know the way that Shaun of the Dead blended horror and comedy? What if the self help genre blended with horror? So if you didn't show enough personal growth you would have Freddy Krueger knocking down your door. I think you'd have a lot of people changing for the better!

What just happened? Have I lost touch with reality? Have I become delusional? I think the mere fact that you are asking those questions is a good sign. I think when the dialogue makes no sense, when the behaviour baffles, there are two things to do: 1) have a sanity check with others. Are you … Continue reading Reality warping? →

In fitness sessions there are those who find out the entire itinerary for the day and then manage their way through it.Then there are those who go all out. Pushing themselves from the off. Running without the handbrake on.The first cohort look at the second like they are fools but the second group will become … Continue reading Handbrake fitness →

Petty people have a way of revealing themselves. They take a miniscule mistake or wrongly interpret a misjudgment to mean a slight on their character and punish you by outing you in front of a group of people. The thing is, their power is diminished if you put your hand up and accept full responsibility. … Continue reading They reveal themselves →

When the bully is bullying it can feel personal and insulting. But if you were to consider the bigger picture. Like for example their childhood, their track record, their relationships with others, then, you'll more often than not, find that it isn't personal at all. And that helps. It's got nothing to do with you. … Continue reading The wider context →