I think it's rare for the human brain to appreciate the absence of drama. When we're in the stressful period all we want is for things to calm down. But we get to the peaceful period and our minds quickly forget the mental toll the stressful period exacted as our boredom bangs on the door … Continue reading Non drama appreciation →

The anonymous nature of feedback forms is supposed to encourage participants. It's not a license to say whatever you want. You're still expected to exercise some compassion as an adult. Eventually, another human being is going to read this. It's supposed to be for improvement not unloading all your issues on someone else.

I think nobody likes to be made to feel inferior. And I think it's an insecure person who likes to make others feel inferior. But I think it's more tolerable when interacting with someone of high status. Especially with someone who earned their place in that high status. What I think is the most aggravating … Continue reading Inferior aggravation →

In the world cup competitions it's very much the winner is remembered and everyone else is forgotten. That's why the 3rd and 4th play off is always a damp squib of a game. You get the sense the players don't care, the coaches don't care and the fans don't care. It's all shrouded in disappointment … Continue reading Third place →

One of the things I think is quite refreshing about Only Murders in the Building is that there is no romance between the males and females in the main trio. Most shows would try to maintain a 'Will they, won't they?' style dilemma throughout the whole show. But the age gap between the males and … Continue reading Refreshing trio →

I think a lot of performance anxiety comes from believing you have to deliver a standard that is beyond your reach. Because deep down you know that is almost impossible. Then ironically you deliver a performance far worse because you're so caught up in doing something you're not capable of. But instead if you believe … Continue reading Performance anxiety →

I think wisdom is knowing when to challenge the gaslighting. Differentiating the harmless from the harmful. Spotting the hills to die on and what is worth letting go to maintain harmony.

If you've been on the end of some disproportionate meanness then I think you've come across someone who didn't have a very loving childhood. Happy people don't go out to annihilate people. And the mean comments don't have anything to do with you. You were just unlucky to wander across their path that day.

I wonder, is neglect more damaging than anger? Not to an employee. I'd say an employee would love to be left alone. But to a child. Is it worse for the child to grow up thinking they are worthless? Like as long as the anger isn't violent and it's only words. And yes not ideal … Continue reading Anger v neglect →

Isn't it funny that there are people with a non-stop voice in their heads saying - You're doing it wrong. It doesn't provide any solutions as to how to do it right, it just points out all the ways you could be doing life better. Life is unfolding in front of us in real time. … Continue reading Doing it wrong →