There are so many prophecies in stories. Harry Potter, Star Wars, The Wheel of Time - they all have them. But prophecies in real life are so rare. When we try to look to the future, we gaze into the very short term and we guess. We say things like 'its supposed to be sunny' … Continue reading Prophecies in Reality →

I think neglect can do more damage to a relationship than the most vicious comments. We all know a familial relationship who say horrendous things to each other but make up and laugh about it. I think that relationship is stronger than the friendship that splinters when one moves away and doesn't message any more, … Continue reading Neglect over viciousness →

With history it seems that the farther back you go, the more likely the historians are guessing. I used to take my history books as gospel but now there is wiggle room for the aliens building Stonehenge or the pyramids. Rick and Morty does a great take on this when it comes to guessing what … Continue reading Guesstory →

I doubt Graham Norton gets offended when the guests on his show don't ask about his life.It's a chat show and he's the host.They know the deal.What's funny is the interviews that sneak up on you in everyday life.What you thought was a friendly two way conversation has actually turned into an interview.Where one person … Continue reading Sneaky interviews →

I thought once you acquired property that would be adulthood complete. Turns out home ownership is problem ownership. Once you fix the hot water, the washing machine breaks and once you resolve that the leading is ready to come off the roof.

When I see environments that rely purely on criticism to change behavior I think they are missing a trick. They need to consider the yin to criticism's yang, praise.I think people hate criticism and crave praise.So while people will want to strongly avoid a scolding, it brings an dimension of fear and shame into the … Continue reading Criticism and praise →

Of course they don't understand your decision, they haven't seen the steps you took.They don't know about your uncle's drinking problem, your sick mum, and eavesdropping roommate.All they see is you on another plain and forget that there is probably a good reason for it.

At the end of each work day Hugo would have a lot to process on the train home. Harriet would sit in silence for a good hour on the bus after each training session, considering everything that just happened. There's reliving exciting moments and then there's quiet reflection. The former is a sign of joy … Continue reading Processing a lot →

In the TV show Motherland the main character is very unlikeable. She does some questionable acts that really throw her status as a good person into contention. But it doesn't seem to put me off the show and I think that's because the writers make sure to balance out the screen time with other characters. … Continue reading Motherland main character →

I think sometimes wallowing is mistaken for processing. Processing is good. Processing helps prevent the night terrors. Processing helps make sense of the world. They may look the same when lying on the ground staring up at the ceiling but sometimes you don't need instant positivity. Sometimes it's better to just let the mind interpret, … Continue reading Wallowing or processing →