A quick way to make yourself feel poor is to compare up or set yourself a new far away financial goal. You would think the billionaire sitting on his docked yacht in Monte Carlo would feel very rich but all he can think about is the neighbouring yacht that is ten times bigger.

"And because of my actions then all the good things followed" Whenever I hear a statement like this I wonder - is that the truth or is that their ego talking? Of course we'd like to think we have had a positive effect on the world but there are usually so many factors at play … Continue reading It was me →

Waiting  over a month for contractors to come and fix my new house I realize it's no wonder the DIY industry is so big. I reckon people don't want to do manual labour and if it was more readily available people would happily pay someone else to fix their house. But I imagine it's an … Continue reading DIY roots →

Imagine inside you, there are caves. Inside those caves live exiled versions of your past self. In the small cave far away is the 11 year old you who experienced his first ever heartbreak. In the slightly bigger oval shaped cave lives the 17 year old you who got stage fright and stood paralyzed in … Continue reading Internal Caves →

You hear about epiphanies and they sound so dramatic and you think to yourself: 'I'd love a sudden world view shift' The implicit promise is that it will reduce suffering and provide a whole new fantastic perspective on life that makes everything easier. But the reality could be that maybe your mind doesn't want it's … Continue reading Epiphany or evolution →

I think the theories and hype around Stranger Things season 5 proves that it's better to do incremental releases rather than the entire series at once. There's more tension and excitement with one episode at a time. You can have cliffhangers that last weeks or months instead of seconds. Also it leaves room for people … Continue reading Binge v incremental →

'The Wizard of Oz' is a nice and simple plot. You have the bad guys over there and the good guys over here, with a very easy to grasp understanding of when the mission is complete. I thought 'Wicked' layered in the complexity very well. Where 'The Wizard of Oz' had black and white categories, … Continue reading Grey Wicked →

Some people are too giving. They take care of others so much that they neglect themselves. Then some people are love poor. They can't share it with others because they don't have enough for themselves. Then there are those who have mastered the balance between inner and outer love. Deftly threading the needle of taking … Continue reading Love poor →

The 'not good enough' belief is a funny one. It makes people feel terrible about themselves while they strive to achieve in order to feel worthy of love. So they say 'not good enough yet'. But no achievement no matter how big makes them feel whole. To flip it on its head you can believe … Continue reading Unachieving two year old →

On the train from Dublin to Cork I witnessed something of a scene. Two women were arguing over a seat. In my opinion, one party was clearly wrong, knew she was in the wrong, was playing the victim and deflecting constantly in the face of very valid arguments. Reflecting on her behaviour, it seemed she … Continue reading Misaligned values and actions →