From what I've learned so far about Tao it's hard to distinguish when to influence and when to flow with the steam of life. But I think, if I were to hazard a guess you have to let your intuition decide. And if it's hard to hear your intuition then it's time to quieten the … Continue reading Influencing and flowing →

Uncertainty is scary.Therefore it's natural to consult others.The problem is, everyone's advice is heavily influenced by their relationship with fear and uncertainty.The risk adverse will say don't do it.The reckless will say do it.Then some will try to reassure you that everything will work out but they don't know.They can see as much of the … Continue reading Uncertainty thumbprint →

The vicious self help cycle goes:I feel painI read to find out the right way to liveI try out new wayI fail to fully implement new wayI beat myself upI feel painI find a new book with a different way to live I rinseI repeat

After reading roughly 80 pages of The Tao of Pooh - the principles of Taoism demonstrated by Winnie the Pooh' I understand Tao to mean buying a cane shaped pen, that you love the look of, then getting home to find it doesn't work.Then the Tao way would be seeing this as an opportunity for … Continue reading Tao with Pooh →

I find it so strange when an adult says to another adult - I'm disappointed with you.It seems like an attempt to control others with shame by playing parent to their child.They are an adult!They get to make their own decisions and face the consequences of those decisions.Who are you to try and take a … Continue reading Disappointed adults →

The realistic optimist does not get overwhelmed by unrealistic expectations placed on them. They recognize the limitations they face and stick to the realm of their control. "There is only so many hours in the day. Within the allotted time we will show our efforts"

The man threw the ball. The dog didn't chase it. Stupid dog!The man threw the ball. The dog brought the ball back but didn't drop it at the owner's feet. Stupid dog!The man threw the ball. The dog chased it down, collected it in their mouth and now explored the park however they liked. Smart … Continue reading Rules of initiation →

Fair play to the makers of the 'Welcome to Wrexham' documentary. It would have been easy to avoid or divert attention away from the club not offering a contract to Mia Roberts. But instead they acknowledged it in a very caring way.It adds a sense of humanity to the football club.

You know the way that Shaun of the Dead blended horror and comedy? What if the self help genre blended with horror? So if you didn't show enough personal growth you would have Freddy Krueger knocking down your door. I think you'd have a lot of people changing for the better!

What just happened? Have I lost touch with reality? Have I become delusional? I think the mere fact that you are asking those questions is a good sign. I think when the dialogue makes no sense, when the behaviour baffles, there are two things to do: 1) have a sanity check with others. Are you … Continue reading Reality warping? →