You could resent them for being this way or you could try to understand the reason why and accept them for who they are.The former is easier. The latter is harder but ultimately, I imagine, what Buddhists would suggest.Man I hate it when Buddhists are right.

"I think this could be a big mistake" "It's not a mistake it's a choice" In the movie 'The House of Gucci' one of the characters makes an important distinction. Mistakes are unintended spelling errors, cheating on your wife is a choice. Taking responsibility for one's actions bypasses a huge amount of drama.

'You see I would support the cause but I don't want to risk losing my spot in the town council because of it" The risk is the point. Change doesn't happen with 5,000 anonymous supporters. Change happens when brave souls publicly stand united willing to risk the backlash of supporting a controversial cause.

Organisations tend to tier their problems. The cleaner just has to worry about removing today's stain. The CEO has to think about the big picture. Issues like what direction is the company moving in and where the will they be in five years time. Therefore one can gauge the importance of a conversation by the … Continue reading CEO is cc’ed →

Frustration is such a charged emotion that its kind of like balancing a bowl full to the brim with molten hot lava. If you're not careful, a tiny slip can mean burning you and everyone around you. But there is hope! If you can manage to make it to the 'safe zone' you can avoid … Continue reading Frustration safe zone →

Passion is obvious and compelling. It's tangible and moving. It makes the mundane meaningful. And the bland special.

Some people struggle giving compliments. They might be praising you behind your back but to your face might be a bridge too far. I think when it comes to these people, you need to look for other signals to gauge your performance. Signals such as: Do they forward your presentation onto their superiors? Do they … Continue reading Compliment actions →

Let's call a spade a spade. That was terrible. I realise it's not popular to say such things but honesty is refreshing and the first step to problem solving away from terrible to great.

Freedom is kind of like a savings account. We might never fully use it but we gain satisfaction from knowing it's there. Oh and we get absolutely furious when someone comes in and takes away our freedom!

F: If only I had known then what I know now! G: What difference would that make? F: Well I'd be better wouldn't I? G: Why is that important? F: Because then I'd be closer to being flawless. G: But you know perfection isn't possible right? F: Yeah I know... but I still want to … Continue reading Knowing then →