Everything in their updates was just a little too great to be believable. The new job sounded too perfect. The new squeeze was described as flawless. The new apartment was too delightful. Had they been a bit more subtle in their approach it may have done a better job of not raising suspicion. But now … Continue reading Everything’s great →

Difficult conversations are difficult because you want to achieve two contradictory goals. You want to say the uncomfortable thing but also remain on good terms with the other person. So you stall until you find the phrasing that walks the tightrope just right. Then hope that they pick up on the sub text and don't … Continue reading Difficult conversations →

A friend of mine works in a large tech company. Within this tech firm, the threat of losing her job has loomed large for a year now. Not because she was bad at her job but because the company has mismanaged their finances and need to make lay offs. For a long while throughout the … Continue reading Life ownership →

Home ownership is problem solving. There is always a problem to fix. Whether it's a leak in the kitchen or a faulty light switch, it's a great metaphor for imperfect living. Now some might say that's a metaphor for life

Percy was the kind of guy that didn't know how good he had it. Talk about making mountains out of molehills, Percy could create an Everest out of the smallest of problems. When his friend didn't reply to his text within an hour - that was a week long rant. When he got a yellow … Continue reading Percy’s perspective →

From what I understand it's very hard to prove causality and the most common reason for change is actually multiple contributing factors. That's why sometimes in psychology it's more useful to stay in the present. Hat tip to Dr. Amir Levine for the inspiration for this one.

Everyone knows about the obvious and common forms of jealousy like wealth, fame, and social status. But what I find interesting is the subtle and advanced forms of jealousy. Like Roy Keane, the black and white thinking hardened general standard setter being jealous of the fun and freedom Dwight Yorke could have. Or the bully … Continue reading Advanced Jealousy →

Seeing comedians trying to make each other laugh it's funny to see that it was actually the most boring material that had the best chance of breaking others.Which I would say contradicts the default belief that the bigger, louder, and more wacky is the funniest material.

I think anyone who doesn't think they're crazy doesn't know themselves well enough. I think those who can acknowledge their crazy are sane. But those who embrace their crazy are free.

I was amazed to read in Jonny Wilkinson's autobiography that as early as doing the lap of honour, not even World Champion for a few hours yet, he was thinking - well, what now? He had just achieved a goal he had been chasing for 15 years, a goal that would prove extremely hard for … Continue reading Goal vacuum →