It's funny that we want happiness and detest pain.Because we seem to be like Teflon for happiness and super glue for pain.Our first proper salary felt more than enough at the time but give it a few years and we wanted raises.Nothing compares to the joy of one or two presents at our first Christmas … Continue reading Happiness teflon →

Some conversations look more like sumo wrestling fights rather than a give and take interaction. By that I mean both parties are just pushing as hard as they can, neither taking a step back, and it will end when someone gets tired and yields.

Irish people are not allowed to support England. It's due to the 800 years of oppression. So whenever England are playing an Irish person is supposed to cheer on the opposition. But what's funny is that if you're an Irish person who's a soccer fan, it's highly likely that you support an English football club. … Continue reading Soccer exceptions →

Sometimes I think saying 'I like you' holds more weight than 'I love you'. For example if you asked Bertha does she love her grandad she would say "of course he's my grandad" There may feel an obligation or a societal pressure to love certain people. But, does Bertha like, the racist comments, the homophobic … Continue reading Liking and loving →

I think if your business relies on volunteers you should make considerable efforts to make them happy. Because the tolerance for adversity is way lower than an earning job. For example when receiving critical feedback at your day job you grin and bear it. Even though it's excruciating because this job is paying your mortgage … Continue reading Volunteer tolerance →

They say from the age of 30 you should be doing strength and conditioning exercises because your muscles start to atrophy. I can see that. I can also see a similar dynamic with our courage muscle. If we let our anxious voice win too many times our courage will start to atrophy. How does a … Continue reading Atrophied courage →

I think having nothing to prove is one of the most liberating feelings. You can walk away whenever you like. You don't care what others think, you know your self worth. But feeling sub optimal and desperate to convince the people who live rent free in your head that you are worthy means you ignore … Continue reading Something to prove →

I think it's rare for the human brain to appreciate the absence of drama. When we're in the stressful period all we want is for things to calm down. But we get to the peaceful period and our minds quickly forget the mental toll the stressful period exacted as our boredom bangs on the door … Continue reading Non drama appreciation →

The anonymous nature of feedback forms is supposed to encourage participants. It's not a license to say whatever you want. You're still expected to exercise some compassion as an adult. Eventually, another human being is going to read this. It's supposed to be for improvement not unloading all your issues on someone else.

I think nobody likes to be made to feel inferior. And I think it's an insecure person who likes to make others feel inferior. But I think it's more tolerable when interacting with someone of high status. Especially with someone who earned their place in that high status. What I think is the most aggravating … Continue reading Inferior aggravation →