I think the most terrifying thing about hospitals is that it brings us face to face with our mortality. Any moment one of these doctors could tell me my time is up. Something I know is an eventuality but work hard to avoid with TikTok, food, and alcohol. Let me go back to living in … Continue reading Scary hospitals →

"What is a hack you can share with us?" I want to hack away at the 'hack' part of the above question. If by hack you mean a  quick and easy fix that makes your problems go away then you're looking at the situation wrong. You'll never have a problem free life. The greatest 'hack' … Continue reading Hacking at hack →

Once upon a time there was a committee that wanted to stop a certain nasty club member from continuing in a position of power but they were all very afraid of the direct and honest route because that held the risk of confrontation. So, instead they created a rule that would prevent that nasty club … Continue reading Committee rope →

From what I see in the movies, when you're a pion in the Mafia, survival depends on gauging and mirroring the mob boss's mood. Because if you come in singing and whistling when they're in foul humour, it could mean your life. People will squash a good mood if it means avoiding getting your head … Continue reading Mafia pion →

Walking around the park yesterday I heard a Dad say to a child: What's the matter with you? Stop being grumpy It's easy to see neuroses develop when you're not allowed to have certain emotions growing up.

I'm watching the Aaron Rodgers documentary and in episode 1 he's 40 years old, he's just torn his Achilles and he's driving everyone around him crazy trying to defy the odds to make it back by the end of the season. The unnecessary snippiness and impatience makes you wonder - where is this behaviour coming … Continue reading Retiring Rodgers? →

You would imagine the cynical hardened folk look down on this individual's blatant cry for sympathy. "Shut up and get on with it" you can picture them saying. But you wonder what makes a fully grown adult obviously want so much pity? Because I don't think any fully functioning healthy adult chooses sympathy to be … Continue reading Cry for sympathy →

I couldn't quite put my finger on it but something felt off. Maybe it was the delivery or the tone or the pace, I don't know. But I reckon it would have been done a lot better and I would have been laughing if Ricky Gervais had written and directed it. Makes me think how … Continue reading Fragile comedy →

When Carl is there and the group is a 4 it resembles a rugby changing room with all its accompanying lad banter and toxic masculinity. But when Carl is absent and the group is a 3 the conversation plumbs new emotional depths. I wouldn't blame you for believing it was a completely different group. The … Continue reading Dynamic change →

Gaslighting is bad but what's worse is not challenging it. You see some friends try to gaslight each other and they can laugh about it and what really happened becomes a running joke for years. But when you know in your bones that you're right and they're wrong but the relationship doesn't feel strong enough … Continue reading Not challenging →