The less convinced they sound, the harder you try. The more they dig in, the more they dig in. You start to get louder and aim to set logic traps for them. It all ends, you claim victory but at what cost? The underlying battle to assert dominance does not endear them to you. It … Continue reading Arguing to win →

When I first watched Anakin in Star Wars episode 3 it wasn't the anger that worried me, everyone gets angry. The thing that scared me the most was when he fully believed that Obi Wan had turned Padma against him. To me it showed that he was too far gone. There would be no talking … Continue reading Anakin’s belief →

Your truth is just a sliver of reality. Your perceptions and how your brain filters information, colours your perception of the world. Therefore I think you have to be weary of anyone who tells you with 100% certainty - this is how the world works.

They wanted to win and they were happy to apply pressure and engage my fear to get there. Which wasn't a lot of fun for me. I was hoping to enjoy myself and if we won, then happy days. But there I am, with my people pleasing trait pricked, panicking about letting this person down.

I think agenda-less days can be one of the best ways to recuperate. The lack of plans produce the feeling of infinite time and maximum freedom. Which is the cure if you're sick of doing things you don't want to do.

It looks like Jane has fallen asleep on the couch but it seems wrong because she was engaged in conversation two minutes ago. It turns out to be fake as when Connie suggests leaving, Jane springs up from the couch and heads straight to the door. It didn't appear to be a joke, this seemed … Continue reading Overacting →

On the one hand you don't want to be an interfering person but on the other hand it's painful to watch a loved one slowly walk to their doom. What's more, the best change happens when the individual wants to change for themselves. Very little progress happens when you force them into it. It's a … Continue reading Autonomy or interfering →

This was not an argument to understand each other's points of view. This is a challenge to make the other side admit how intelligent you are. Nobody's listening, everybody's making the same points louder and louder.

I think competitiveness can add an excitement to a game. The board game is no longer a means to pass the time, now it's personal. But I think it's a very fine balance to strike. I think humour is often required to release the tension. I also think when winning becomes a way to demean … Continue reading Competitiveness →

"You have limitless potential, which makes what you've achieved so far, so shit" "You can do anything you put your mind to. Too bad all you think about is overeating and masterbating" You don't get much gallows humour these days and I reckon it's because it flies in the face of the personal empowerment movement … Continue reading Rare gallows humour →