I think you can gauge how calm someone is by how quickly they get through a Japanese garden. The more anxious and tightly wound will complete it asap. Whether as the more relaxed will take their time to absorb it all, noticing more and more as they go. You don't have to say anything but … Continue reading Garden lap times →

The worst interviews are when the celebrity has given the interviewer a list to not talk about. Or they tee them up with generous phrasing and don't follow up with harder questions. Then it's no longer a revealing interview it's a box checking exercise. The celebrity thinks they've gotten away with it but nobody's fooled … Continue reading An PR interview →

My cousin needs help moving and I offered my brother's services. Which is always a problematic situation in my eyes. For the following reasons: My brother doesn't appreciate being signed up for things by other people. I don't know what else is on my brother's plate right now. It damages my brother's relationship with my … Continue reading Offering services →

Wild nature is great for learning and exploring but there's something very satisfying in curated nature.For example to come across a fallen tree might spark a journey into learning more about trees  You might walk around it and wonder what caused it. You might try and lift a branch and feel how heavy it is.But to … Continue reading Wild v curated →

It's harder to argue personal history. If I were to say people with Tourettes get beat up much more than people without it. I imagine the twittersphere would immediately ask for stats and studies to back that statement up. But then you watch a movie like 'I Swear' and you see someone with Tourettes telling … Continue reading Personal v stats →

The critic has no ideas of their own. They're just looking for something to criticize. They don't appreciate the difficulties facing the man in the arena. They just want to tell you it's wrong and let you do all the problem solving. But a collaborator voices their concerns, immediately follows up with their suggestions for … Continue reading Critics and collaborators →

It's funny how misogynists aren't gay. Like if you truly hated women surely you would cut them out of your life entirely. But it's like the universe's ironic joke that they have to engage with women because to be gay is even worse in their eyes.

One way monogamy was how they described it.So he could sleep whoever he wanted and she had to stay loyal to him.And Louis asked her all the right questions.You're ok with him sleeping with other women whenever he wants?It doesn't upset you at all?It sounded like she knew the full extent of it too.He wasn't … Continue reading One way monogamy →

Watching the Louis Theroux documentary about the manosphere, reminds me of the quote:The devil can quote scripture to his own endBecause they seem to touching upon a lot of observations with some truth in them but coming to the wrong conclusion in my opinion anyway.Yes it's important to take control of your life but it … Continue reading Manosphere →

I think the path to lasting fulfillment lies in dealing with the monotony of everyday life. Holidays are great. They can be novel and switch up the scenery but you can't be on a holiday for the rest of your life. Eventually you'll come across some adversity to keep the holiday going, whether that means … Continue reading Everyday monotony →