Old friends

I think that in order for a relationship to be healthy and last it has to evolve and grow with the individuals.

Can you be open and vulnerable with this person? With each new interaction do you feel like you’re getting closer to this person? Do your conversations become more intimate whilst feeling safe as you go?

Or are you simply spending time with this person because you’ve known them for so long?

You feel obliged to them. And so you slip mindlessly into old habits, going through the motions having the same conversation over and over again?

Has the dynamic changed? Do they still put you down like when you were a kid?

I think it makes the difference between old friends and best friends.

The important metric shouldn’t be sunk costs (time put in) but the way they make you feel when you’re with them.