Helping Adam

Adam is in charge of ordering office supplies and today is delivery day.

The thing about this delivery is that the order is for the office supplies and not the boxes that hold them. So the delivery man, who is in a rush, can’t leave without the boxes. Therefore Adam is trying to unpack 30 boxes as quick as he can.

Peter walks by, sees Adam unpacking at rapid speed and continues on walking by.

Holly on the other hand spots Adam struggling with the boxes and rushes over to help.

To analyse Adam’s colleagues behaviour, I think that if Peter did think about helping Adam, he deemed his time and or energy too scarce to help Adam at this time.

Holly on the other hand, saw an opportunity to help out and seized it. She enjoys the good wholesome feeling she gets from helping out but more so she takes tremendous pleasure from seeing herself as someone who helps out.

Both behaviours bolstered the narrative of the individual. Peter sees himself as someone who doesn’t have the time and or energy to help out and Holly sees herself as someone who rushes to your aid.

Finding out how someone sees themselves can help explain their behaviour.