The apprentice who knows no better enjoys the role a lot more than the graduate who studied the unused perfect theory. Caleb wastes time and energy berating the customer service rep whilst Jane has already got another flight booked. In between the way you think things should be and the way they are is the … Continue reading The pain you choose to suffer →

I think one of the biggest hindrances to mindfulness, meditation and sitting still is remembering the really important task. Nothing tests your focus more than the job that really needs to be done that you forgot about. Saying no to the idea to check Instagram is relatively easy compared to remembering you forgot to pay … Continue reading The really important task →

In a previous role I was gifted a lot of autonomy and assigned an intern. It was great because I could implement all my own ideas, without any resistance, and have help doing it too. But I quickly learnt an unexpected downside. In my eagerness to keep improving I kept updating our process and I'm … Continue reading Moving the goalposts →

Why doesn't whistleblowing happen more often? Why aren't more rule breakers kept in check? I think the majority of the public don't like confrontation and so the mischievous few take advantage of this avoidance technique to get away with murder

"Once I get a hold of my anxiety, then I'll be happy" The yin and yang symbol didn't wait til it was fully white before becoming an iconic symbol. It did it with some darkness. In fact, if it had been all white, it would be boring. Who cares about just a white circle?

I used to think it would be great if I could master psychology because then I could become impenetrable and hone in on a bully's weakness and tear them to shreds. But now that I've learnt a little bit it's become clear that we're all messed up. Even the most successful in the world aren't … Continue reading Learning psychology →

I just heard George Mumford admonishing the idea of embracing everything that comes your way. Think Jim Carrey in Yes Man. And I like that idea because it leaves no room for anxiety or fear. If what comes your way is positive then the convenience and luck is great! If what arrives on your doorstep … Continue reading Embracing everything →

As soon as you share the information you lose control of how it's used. For example if I were to enlighten Harry Potter that his parents were murdered by He who must not be named then I would instill a furious desire in him for vengeance. I don't want Harry to get killed but there's … Continue reading Cats out of the bag →

The stillness is unsettling. I want to reach for my phone so bad. The Instagram. The YouTube. The TikTok. They scream in my ear. Usually I cave at this point but today it wasn't possible. Eventually the screams seemed to realise this and slowly started to die in my ear. Then in the silence another … Continue reading Quietening the screaming →

I have to say it's refreshing to see an example of success built around inputs in Ted Lasso. I think too much of goals revolve around outcomes. Hitting targets, box office results, and no. of followers for example. It's a stressful way to operate because of the simple fact that all that stuff is out … Continue reading Inputs not outcomes →