'Hey man, just following up on the group chat message I sent earlier, any luck with your decision?' 'Hey, yeah I'm just going to wait to see what everyone else is doing first before deciding' ... So, basically the extremely indecisive are waiting on the mildly indecisive to make the first move. Then when a … Continue reading Indecisive group →

In an ideal world you'd have a team of greats. No weaknesses whatsoever. But when has the world ever been ideal? Some will waste their life searching for perfect options. Others will pick a team of good enoughs and make them great. I think it's one of the most noble things you can do for … Continue reading Nurturing good enough →

The young manager didn't have a firm grasp on what his team was doing all the time. So, he told them they would have to submit to him hourly reports on their activity. He clapped his hands with glee. Now he was finally going to get to the bottom of what they were doing all … Continue reading Hourly reports →

Have you ever stonewalled someone? You know what I'm talking about. It's when you stop talking, lock up shop and don't engage anymore. You just sit there, silently seething. I think if you see this employed against you then you know you've messed up. Looking back on my experience of using it as a teenager … Continue reading Stonewalling →

I think the best service people are the ones that make you feel special. I think the worst service people are the ones who make you feel like you're just a bag of cash. I recently had an appointment with a specialist for their insight and it was a shambles. They were 15 minutes late. … Continue reading Cash bag or special →

With your therapist you discover a manipulative or neglectful tactic a loved one uses against you.Previously you thought it was just a harmless characteristic but the therapist has helped you see how damaging it has been for you.Epiphanies in therapy are common and I'm not interested in that bit. The part I care about is … Continue reading The therapy secret →

I think the worst thing about confrontations is the living in fear of one. I think most people would be able to handle the spontaneous one but the potential one that spins out in disastrous scenarios in your head as you sense one on the horizon, those are the real torturous ones.

The 'winner' tears the head off everyone around him to win the game. Then once the game is won the 'winner' can relax and hang out like a human again. The thing is, there's a game every week. A team in the premier league plays 38 games a season no matter how bad they are. … Continue reading The infinite one →

To watch the video of Will Smith's reaction to Chris Rock's stand up special or not to watch? To deny wanting to watch it would be silly. There is a caveman inside me and he longs for this savage drama. But the sophisticated and wise half of my brain makes a good case for not … Continue reading Irrationally wanting to watch →

If you've just been snubbed (by that I mean not the malicious kind like you engaged them in conversation, they definitely heard you and decided not to talk back but the pretend not to see you kind) and you don't want to choose anger or resentment I think the following may help. It's likely that … Continue reading Snubbed →