An argument doesn't happen all at once. It doesn't go from pleasant silence to screaming match at the flick of a switch. No. The arguer likes to ease you into it. They like to lay out the bait with a random strong and controversial opinion. Hmmm juicy! Then the unsuspecting victim feels it's their responsibility … Continue reading Argument bait →

When COVID ended some kept the changes they made adapting to the worldwide pandemic. 'We're more resilient this way and more prepared should it happen again' they said. When COVID ended some threw out the temporary model and immediately went back to the old way of doing things. 'What are the odds it'll happen again? … Continue reading When COVID ended →

How much for this mug?Eh ... make me an offerIt's the Amy episode of Lovesick and Angus is just getting used to selling. Luke has taught him the power of reframing. Instead of giving the price outright Angus is now asking potential buyers to make him an offer.Both Luke and Angus are hoping that this … Continue reading The Amy episode →

Discovering Europe is a board game where you are given destinations to reach and play alongside others who try to hinder your progress. The approach for the most fun and the least amount of frustration is to pick the quickest path and be prepared to be thrown off course. It makes for a great metaphor … Continue reading Discovering Europe →

It appears to me that the instruction manual dominates today's working world. The average worker thinks the first time, then mindlessly copies and pastes the rest of the time. Now I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that. Habits, systems and processes infinitely improve productivity. But I think the consistent presence of instruction manuals means … Continue reading Thinking practice →

Kate DiCamillo is a children's author with at least 20 published books to date and she is a Newbery prize winner. But long ago when she was trying to get her first book published she was rejected 473 times. 473! Now I think there is a lesson to be learned from Kate and her perseverance. … Continue reading Random rejection ruminations →

One of my old rugby coaches used to say a player with good hands is one who could catch a bad pass and give a good pass and his constant refrain was - don't shovel on shit! I can see a parallel in the working world. The chain of anger. The CEO shouts at the … Continue reading Responsible adults →

I reckon it's easier to respect someone you don't like than to like someone you don't respect. Because preferences are subjective but achievements are indisputable. You can debate whimsy but a moon rock need say no more.

Isn't it ironic and hilarious how bang on the money with calculated precision people can be with the problems of others whilst simultaneously remain woefully ignorant of their own? It seems no one is safe from these blind spots. Everyone was assigned them at birth. Some will continue to operate with this defect but some … Continue reading Blind spots →

Why don't people take responsibility for their actions? Why instead do they live in denial, play the victim or lay blame elsewhere? Why don't people take ownership of their emotions? To hazard a guess, with what I know so far, I posit, that it is due to a fragile self identity. The perception they have … Continue reading Good responsible people →