I think you've become the bigger person when you not only show mercy to those who never show you mercy but going one step further and being bored with the thought of petty revenge. You've got bigger fish to fry!

If it's my fiver I feel guilty about spending it on chocolate. Really I should be putting that money towards a mortgage or saving for car repairs. But when someone gives me a gift voucher or a fiver for the sole purpose of treating myself it feels good. The guilt evaporates. It feels like now … Continue reading Gifted money →

Did you know that Tony Robbins, Michael Jordan, and Paul McCartney all have failed marriages. You would have thought with Tony's vast knowledge of success and positive psychology he would've been able to create an amazing relationship. You would have thought that the hard work, passion, and unwillingness to quit that Michael showed regularly on … Continue reading Great at everything →

I think if your line of inquiry is persistent enough and you dig deep enough you will find a powerful fear driving the behaviour.

Why did the relationship last? Because they found a way to talk when they felt like shouting. Because their anger was carefully controlled in a fireplace rather than let loose to burn their world to the ground.

You know it's a boring game when the crowd starts to entertain themselves with a Mexican wave.

Did you know the way they determine which 'celebrity' takes on the latest disgusting challenge is by a public vote. So the 'celebrity' is a slave to the public's opinion. How apt.

I think this is the question most people ask after they see senseless violence. Why did they do that? What provoked them? Are they mentally deranged? We desperately want to understand because if we can understand we can make sense of our world and we'll feel safer in it.

Presenteeism (when an employee shows up to work despite being unwell) is a weird one. It begs the question - what's going on here psychologically speaking? Where is the employee feeling the pressure from? Yes the company should be the first port of call but I think it's rare for any manager in this day … Continue reading Presenteeism →

Nobody wants to work with someone who is excessively difficult and at the same time you don't want to run yourself into the ground pleasing others. So, I reckon, somewhere between: 'if you want me to reply you'll have to open a ticket' And 'Yes, I can do anything you want' There is a sweet … Continue reading Helpful boundaries →