Fluffy, the dog, is whimpering in her cage. It's clear that Fluffy isn't enjoying the captivity right now. Whether she wants to pee, poo, be played with or go for a walk we can't be sure but she definitely wants out. Unfortunately for Fluffy, the only other being in the vicinity is Alex, the man … Continue reading Commitment to help →

Why bother? When contemplating the goal we may groan at the potential effort required. Why bother do the push ups? Why bother study? Why bother leave the comfort zone? The best answer I can give to this is... regret. I like the way Jim Rohn summised it when he said: "We must all suffer from … Continue reading Why bother? →

Fleabag is a TV show I heard a lot about. Everyone seemed to be talking about it. It was cropping up in so many unrelated areas that it gave the impression that everyone was watching and talking about it. After watching the first season I can see what all the fuss was about. It is … Continue reading Fleabag →

In 'The Inner Game of Tennis' Timothy Galwey labelled them self 1 and self 2. In 'Creativity - a short and cheerful guide' John Cleese called them the hare brain and tortoise mind. And in the below quote Einstein described them as the intuitive mind and the rational mind. "The intuitive mind is a sacred … Continue reading The intuitive self 2 tortoise →

Recently I read two self help books. Both written by experts, both with very different strategies. The first book was more like an instruction manual. The master listed the tactics that worked well for him and recommended them to the reader. The second book did not recommend any tactics, instead it looked to serve as … Continue reading Contrasting book strategies →

Who is it really tough on? I think it's tougher on the punisher. If it wasn't it would be called sadistic. Tough love feels counter intuitive. 'So I'm supposed to help them by being mean to them?' I think tough love must be one of the highest forms of caring. It shows how committed you … Continue reading Tough love →

In the 2000 NFL draft Tom Brady was picked in the 6th round by the New England Patriots.It was clear how the scouts rated his potential. They picked 198 other players before him.So Brady packs his bags and heads to the Patriots headquarters.When he arrives he introduces himself to the Patriots' owner Bob Kraft.Brady thanked … Continue reading Brady’s hook →

'Can I have a sip of your champagne Daddy?' The father contemplates the request. What's in a sip? One sip isn't going to damage their brains, a sip is harmless! 'Alright go on then' Most recovering alcoholics won't even risk a sip. They've learned the hard way that there is no such thing as one … Continue reading One sip →

'The kid to save the marriage' Every now and then I've come across this comment. Usually expressed as a joke with the prompts of a large age gap between siblings or divorced parents. Hypothetically to take this comment as not a joke. To take it seriously as a method to save a marriage and contemplate … Continue reading Marriage saving kid →

What could you do? The acid test question to sort the complainers from the action takers. Let me set the scene. Someone has been complaining about their life. Something isn't going the way they planned. They're not happy with their lot and they are telling you about it in great detail how it's not their … Continue reading Call to action →