I think, when persuading people, it's best to have something in your back pocket. A card that you don't reveal right away. A card that you only display when you think people are 99% there but just need the tiniest of nudges. I remember I really wanted to do a course but the cost of … Continue reading Ace in the pocket →

Forgiveness is an odd thing. On the one hand you don't want to forget because you don't want to get burned again and on the other hand you feel like you're creating tension for yourself. One of them has to win to move on. Do you minimize the remembering to feel less awkward in the … Continue reading Forgiving →

'Oh that's interesting' Is a much nicer phrase to say about the contents of one's brain. It also shows more tolerance for the weird and the wild that our noggin throws into the mix. Berating oneself for mad or bad thoughts is like beating a dog for wanting food.

It's a lazy Sunday.I have the whole day to myself.The neurotic part of my brain has, unprovoked, already started creating a to-do list.But the lazy part says:Ah, we have all day to do that stuff, let's stay in bed a bit longer and watch TikToks. Time passes and you feel like you're starting to become … Continue reading Curveball incoming →

If you say no right away you look like an uncooperative stubborn mule. But if you say sure we can look into that and let the bad idea show it's weakness for you then you can say 'that was a stupid idea' in a softer way without picking their egos. "Hmm we might be caught … Continue reading The softer way →

The stand up comedian shows that it's ok to be annoyed, grumpy, and cynical with life.They're unique in that regard because the optimists of the world may berate you for complaining.The self help books will tell you this difficult moment has learnings in it.Others don't want to hear your rants for fear of dragging them … Continue reading Ok to be cynical →

Conk has been visiting old Betty for 3 months now and he's beginning to notice a pattern. They say hello Betty jokes about still being alive They complain about the weather (no matter what the temperature) Betty asks about Conk's family Then Betty launches into the latest scandal from her Bridge club and that carries … Continue reading Conk and Betty →

It was only a 20 minute car journey but it was full of moments. There was the cyclist making an illegal and very disruptive right turn. A great uplifting song came on that I hadn't heard in ages. Then there was that overly aggressive eye contact from that jay walker. Then I arrived at my … Continue reading Life’s flow →

Capgillus looked down at her phone and squealed with delight. It was an email from her ex-husband's lawyer. She didn't even open it or read the contents she just knew that she won a little battle. See, she had worked out the dynamic. When she won, the lawyer sent an email. But when her ex-husband … Continue reading Capgillus’ inbox →

It was after everything had calmed down and he was still arguing for his innocence, that's when I knew he still had work to do anger management wise. You see, from everyone else's point of view, he lost the plot, and his punishment was inevitable from his actions. So, I thought once everything had calmed … Continue reading After the red mist left →