In fitness sessions there are those who find out the entire itinerary for the day and then manage their way through it.Then there are those who go all out. Pushing themselves from the off. Running without the handbrake on.The first cohort look at the second like they are fools but the second group will become … Continue reading Handbrake fitness →

Petty people have a way of revealing themselves. They take a miniscule mistake or wrongly interpret a misjudgment to mean a slight on their character and punish you by outing you in front of a group of people. The thing is, their power is diminished if you put your hand up and accept full responsibility. … Continue reading They reveal themselves →

When the bully is bullying it can feel personal and insulting. But if you were to consider the bigger picture. Like for example their childhood, their track record, their relationships with others, then, you'll more often than not, find that it isn't personal at all. And that helps. It's got nothing to do with you. … Continue reading The wider context →

I think Schadenfreude is bad. People who are quick to laugh at others misfortune should be ashamed. But I'd like to seperate out a nuance that often gets lumped in with Schadenfreude. That is, the delight at your faith in justice being renewed. Poor lil Timmy losing his dog to cancer shouldn't bring joy to … Continue reading Schadenfreude justice →

'Oh man I wish my life was easier!' 'Well while we're at it, let's wish to win the lotto, and have Margot Robbie as your wife and stay the same age forever and be able to teleport and have an invisibility cloak too!'

On the intangible spectrum, they haven't earned enough abstract brownie points to be considered 'in the group' yet. But they're on their way!

As I write this I am sitting in the park noticing just how many dog walkers there are. Not only walking their dogs but also powering around the park, failing to appreciate the vibrant nature around them (well in my opinion at least). It seems as if they're only in the park because it's widely … Continue reading Dog walkers in the park →

Agamemnon has the general title but Achilles has the respect of the soldiers.The trouble is, they're both saying different things and the soldiers don't know who to follow.In the uncertainty and ambiguity the troops are being slaughtered left, right, and centre.And so they are defeated at the battle of Carthage.Because the leadership team couldn't align.(Historical … Continue reading Leadership alignment →

The Man United players quickly learned to fear Sir Alex. He proved time and again that he could fly off the handle over the smallest of matters. Players ran in fear of him and hated playing on the touchline closest to him. Then Sir Alex started to sense the aversion his players had to his … Continue reading Sir Alex’s control →

A cool buddhist story I heard recently which I wanted to share with y'all...A young monk went up to the head monk and said:I need a transfer. I need to get away from this monastery and into a better one. All the monks here are rude to me and when they're not rude to me … Continue reading Teaspoon monk →