The aspirational part of the brain says you should write a book. But when the pre scheduled time for writing arrives, another part of the brain, a silent scared part, pulls all the distraction levers and makes sure no writing gets done today. But what I think is mad, is that the scolding voice enters … Continue reading Neural rock and hard place →

It's hard to post into a group chat and receive no engagement. Particularly when you can see how many people read it. It feels like rejection. It erodes your passion. But I don't think at any point, that the answer is coercion and anger. It's just feedback and a chance to practice empathy. Maybe you … Continue reading Group Ghosting →

In 2004 Kleberson joins Man United and quickly finds Roy Keane on his case at all times. To Kleberson it feels like too much and surely Sir Alex who had been so nice to him doesn't condone this behavior. So Kleberson decides to trap Roy by making him shout at Kleberson in front of Sir … Continue reading Kleberson’s discovery →

One road to insanity is waiting around for Karma to enact justice. You could drive yourself demented keeping tabs on your so called enemy and schadenfreude is rarely a good look on anyone. An alternative route is to realize that something bad has already happened to them. That's why they were so callous / angry … Continue reading Karma tabs →

It could be an overstatement to say but I think society in Ireland has largely done away with obvious forms of sexism. I'm not saying there is gender equality. Now it's just subtler and it's in the small actions that it rears its ugly head.

In a brainstorming session you want edge of the box thinking. Out of the box is impractical, middle of the box has already been thought of ten times over, but edge of the box that's where the good suggestions lie. For example if we were marketing dishwasher liquid, the idealist would suggest the Queen, the … Continue reading Edge of the box →

I think the best teachers are good at finding out your competency level and then leaving sufficient breadcrumbs to get you to the desired level. It requires patience and empathy and a teacher that will guide you through that journey is worth their weight in gold Because unfortunately, not everyone has these qualities.

You often see the statement 'everyone deserves love' in mental books and I find it problematic. Because the question springs to mind: So, Hitler deserved love? Surely not, right? There needs to be some clarification in the statement, some nuance added to make sense of it all. Unless you rephrase it to maybe: 'everyone needs … Continue reading Everyone deserves love →

Logic dictates that you take the simplest route to complete the task. For example Alex, the Head of Castleknock GAA doesn't want Frank being the caretaker anymore, so logic would say Alex goes over to Frank and tells him so. But humans feel feelings and Alex is registering fear at the prospect of this interaction. … Continue reading Logic and fear →

It's funny how in the moment you may have felt supremely confident in your actions and elated at the outcome but then some time passes and the second round of emotions roll in and they're negative. All of a sudden a glorious moment becomes the source of overthinking, guilt, shame, and sadness. I think the … Continue reading Second round emotions →