You have absolutely no control into what family, time, race, and disabilities you are born into.You can't see the future, and are given a limited amount of information to make decisions with.Change is constant but you're designed to crave security and stability.You could die at any moment.You won't appreciate the amount of time and energy … Continue reading The absurdity of life →

I think the most cruel aspect of gaslighting is the side effect of the victim questioning their sanity. Because once their viewpoint starts to weaken then all the truly terrible beliefs come crashing in. Which is particularly callous if it's not their fault at all. A simple honest admission of weakness or guilt could avoid … Continue reading Gaslighting cruelty →

My writing irritates me. It provokes in me the perfectionist who tells me that I've written 4 blog posts like this already. It wonders aloud if a child could string sentences together better than me. It laughs at the lack of variety and creativity I bring to my website on a daily basis. I suppose … Continue reading Irritating writing →

I think people underestimate the environment's effect on behaviour. In sports you may wonder why someone performs so magnificently for club but terribly for country. Or why the mood swings always seem to happen when visiting family. When walking around nature I felt calm. When walking around IKEA I felt anxious as I tried to … Continue reading Environmental behavior →

I think the best nature is the areas when you can no longer hear civilisation. This factor is crucial for Disneyland parks. They deliberately plan them on sites where no signs of the outside world can break the spell. I think the same is true for the best nature. You are entirely immersed. You can't … Continue reading Best nature →

"Sometimes you meet your destiny on your path to avoiding it" You imagine the intention behind the pre game pep talk was to secure victory. But ironically it worsened the chances because it put everyone into a panicky fear filled state and they made poor decisions from then out. I think the best pre game … Continue reading Destiny avoidance →

I think inherent in nature is the wise saying: this too shall pass The temperature The presence or absence of leaves and flowers The tide The amount of sunlight They're all subtle reminders surrounding us telling us that change is constant.

Being psychologically triggered is never fun and it's easy to say: Stay in the moment, your reaction is disproportionate But the reality is that deep and powerful emotions rarely listen to reason.

A lot of people talk about financial expenditure but what about energy expenditure? An ongoing issue with no limits on its 'worry potential' could suck all your energy for living. You don't want to go on adventures when you're tired. It's hard not to be super crabby when you're exhausted. Conducting an energy audit could … Continue reading Energy expenditure →

I think simple people are under appreciated. I don't mean stupid people. I mean simple as in straightforward and easy to deal with. They are upfront with their desires and honest about their conditions. Of which they have little. Now a difficult person who is honest can prepare you for the diva storm they will … Continue reading Simple people →